A nice tax day reflection
Living~400lbs has a wonderful tax day reflection up today.
She talks about taxes as a metaphor, and looks at what metaphorical taxes she doesn’t have to pay now that she is part of the FA movement. Here is her list of taxes she doesn’t have to pay:
• I’m not having to buy clothes to fit the latest weight loss / rebound gain, or feeling that I can’t buy clothes until I finish losing weight.
• I’ve been the same dress size for nearly 10 years.* The classic navy blue blazer I bought 6 years ago? Still fits.
• Exercise is stress relief, not a punishment.
• I quit exercising when I feel satisfied, not when I’ve hit some “exercise this many minutes to use X calories” goal.
• Facing the fridge is a question of “What do I want to eat?” not “What is on my diet / will help me lose weight?”
• I don’t carry a mental list of forbidden foods that I crave all the time.
I agree with pretty much all of hers, and also add a couple of my own:
• I don’t have to feel the weight of responsibility for someone not liking me because I’m fat; I can let it go as “their problem” instead of something wrong with me.
• I don’t have to feel the weight of responsibility when a physical accommodation (such as an air plane seat) doesn’t work well with my body; again I can let it go as a problem with the airline (or whoever) not having accessible chairs for all instead of something wrong with me.
• My body size and shape doesn’t have to feel like a moral failing
• I don’t have to be afraid of how my body might change over time, getting older or becoming disabled in some way, because I know I can love it even when it doesn’t fit society’s definition of “loveable.”
• I do not carry with me the stress that my worth as a person is wrapped up entirely in what I look like.
What are yours?